Sunday, November 4, 2012

Wife of an Autogynephiliac


“My list starts with the fact that I've become more than William's spouse; I've become his friend and confidante.  William actually talks to me now about his work, about his thoughts, about things that matter to him, about stuff he NEVER talked about before.  It certainly didn't happen overnight.  I really started noticing it about a year or so after discovery and it's continued to blossom.  Along with that, he also LISTENS to me. No more emailing him so that he will remember dates/times/events, etc.

I've become more than William's spouse; I've become his friend and confidante.”

“William actually talks to me now about his work, about his thoughts, about things that matter to him, about stuff he NEVER talked about before.” The equivalent for “work” as us students, would be school, about our thoughts, and stuff that matters to us.

“I really started noticing it about a year or so after discovery and it's continued to blossom.” Intimacy blossomed after she showed she was understanding of who he really was. He was revealed and understanding, acknowledgement, and acceptance happened to form connection.

“he also LISTENS to me. No more emailing him so that he will remember dates/times/events, etc.”

When you become someone’s close confidante, listening is automatic as it is crucial for the relationship to develop into one that is full of emotional intimacy.



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